Intrusive or scary thoughts can be incredibly overwhelming, especially in those early months of parenting. You might find yourself worried about falling down the stairs with the baby, accidentally throwing them out of a window, or even having disturbing thoughts that make you feel sick to your stomach.

These thoughts can be frightening and make you question your sanity. The good news? Just because these thoughts are distressing doesn’t mean you’re losing control. The fact that they disturb you is a sign that you will not carry them out.

Understanding These Thoughts

Here’s what you need to know:

• Types of Thoughts: They can range from fears of accidents like dropping the baby to disturbing or even sexual thoughts.
• Your Reaction: If these thoughts make you feel sick and you don’t want them, it’s a sign that you’re not in a psychotic state and your response is actually a protective factor.

What to Do When Scary Thoughts Strike

Here’s how to manage and move past these troubling thoughts:

• Acknowledge the Thought: Say to yourself, “Wow, that was a scary thought.” Recognizing it is the first step toward letting it go.
• Acknowledge Your Feelings: Admit, “That thought didn’t make me feel good.” It’s important to validate your emotional response.
• Release the Thought: Use guided imagery techniques to let go.
  • Imagine placing the thought on a cloud and watching it float away.
  • Visualize sticking it on a stick and sending it down a river.
• Talk About It: Share your experience with a loved one or someone you trust. The more you talk about it, the less shameful and isolating it will feel.
• Seek Professional Help: If these thoughts start affecting your sleep or behavior—like avoiding certain tasks or being paralyzed by fear—reach out to a healthcare professional.
  • Contact Postpartum Support International at 1-800-944-4773 for immediate support.

Final Thoughts

Intrusive or scary thoughts are a common struggle for many new parents, but you don’t have to face them alone. By acknowledging, releasing, and talking about these thoughts, you can manage their impact and reduce their hold on your life.

Remember, reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. At Fourth Trimester Doc, we’re here to support you and provide the guidance you need. Whether you’re planning for the postpartum period or currently navigating it, we’re here to help. Reach out to us on our contact page! You’ve got this, and we’re here to support you every step of the way.

We’re here for you,
Dr. Haggerty