Let’s talk about a myth that’s been floating around: the idea that you should love every single minute of being a parent. How many times were you told during pregnancy or in those early postpartum days, “Make sure you love every minute!” or “Oh, you’ll love every minute of it”? Let’s be real—nobody loves every single minute, and that’s okay.

The Reality Check

Here’s the truth: it’s setting up unrealistic expectations. There will be times when you’re just fucking tired and frustrated. You’ll question things with thoughts like “Why did I even do this?” and “What did I sign up for?” And you know what? That’s totally normal. Parenting is hard—whether it’s handling a newborn, a toddler, or any stage in between. It’s challenging, and that’s part of the journey.

Why These Expectations Are Harmful

Putting the pressure on yourself to love every single moment is not only unrealistic but also toxic. It sets you up for unnecessary shame, disappointment, and feelings of inadequacy. You shouldn’t have to deal with that on top of everything else you’re juggling.

Embrace the Real Moments

Let’s be honest: the years might fly by, but the days can feel incredibly long. Time can feel like it’s standing still and racing by all at once. So, give yourself permission to not love every single moment. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your kids or that you’re not a great parent. It just means you’re human.

Find What Brings You Joy

Make sure to carve out time for yourself to do things that bring you joy, energy, and light. It’s okay to not love every minute of parenting. What matters is that you’re doing your best and that’s more than enough.

You’re Doing Great

Remember, you’re doing an amazing job simply by being there and giving it your all. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, know that you don’t have to go through this alone. At Fourth Trimester Doc, we’re here to support you and provide the guidance you need. Whether you’re planning for the postpartum period or currently navigating it, we’re here to help. Reach out to us on our contact page!

You’ve got this, and you deserve all the support and understanding in your parenting journey.

We’re here for you,

Dr. Haggerty